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What narrative are you telling yourself?

Imagine it’s the third quarter and you are behind goal.  Imagine you are way behind goal.  What would you be telling yourself?

storyA lot of us would throw in the towel.  We would fall into a mood of resignation.  And the likely story running through our heads, “Nothing that I or anyone else does will make a difference, so there is no point in trying.  I will never hit that goal.”

Now imagine if such a story permeated the minds of the New England Patriots during Super Bowl LI.  They were falling short of their goal – way short.  In fact, at the beginning of the third quarter, they were down 28 to 3.  By this time many people had turned the game off and went to bed.  Those that continued watching now heard commentators making final conclusions of a Patriots loss.  It seemed as if the game was over.

No one would have faulted the Patriots if they too became preoccupied with the score.  Even their most supportive fans likely resigned from the chance of a victory.  But the Patriots did not.  In case you missed it, Super Bowl LI went down in history.  The Patriots fought back from a 25-point deficit and ended their season as Super Bowl champs; they met their goal.

Just like the Super Bowl, our business has four quarters.  And just like the Super Bowl we find ourselves behind goal.  Do we resign from our effort or will we remain curious as to the numerous possibilities left to finish ahead of goal?

The story you are telling yourself will either hold you back or propel your forward.  If it is not working, then change the story.  Literally the narrative going on between your ears determines how you participate in the game.

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You don’t know what you’re missing!

Written by Cindy M., Recruiter & Assistant Team Manager – JFC Workforce  

Prior to my current work family I spent six years in the insurance industry as a case manager.  In that period of time I learned many things but was never ‘formally’ introduced to the concept of professional development.  After my time in the insurance industry I was hired by JFC Workforce.  It was a foreign world and industry to me however I was excited to embark on a different path.  That was three years ago and “wow” was I in for an awakening.

It was at JFC where I was propelled into being a student of deliberate learning; not just about the industry but also about myself.  It was a pivotal moment where professional development was infused into my mindset.

From the very first day, heck the very first hour, it was apparent that my employer genuinely cared about my personal and professional growth. Several of the VP’s spent one on one time with me and welcomed me to the team.  The CEO even spent time to learn about me and explain the vision and culture.  It was quite surreal.  It was also during those first few encounters that it sunk in…”I had gained a second family, my JFC family.”

I was dedicated to their philosophy of pursuing my better self and it was noticed.  Most recently I was selected for JFC’s Professional Development program – when each year a select few team members are entrenched in executive mentoring, consultation, coaching, as well as lesson study, and of course, team building activities.

So what did I learn?  

I was introduced to the topic of Emotional Intelligence and the “why” behind it.  If you have never heard of this, I urge you to look it up.  Emotional Intelligence, or EQ, is critical to self development.

Here is the essence of EQ:

  • Self-awareness – Your ability to accurately perceive your emotions and stay aware of them as they happen. This includes keeping you on top of how you ten to respond to specific situations and certain people.
  • Self-Management – Your ability to use awareness of your emotions to stay flexible and positively direct your behavior. This means managing your emotional reactions to all situations and people.
  • Social Competence – The combination of  your social awareness and relationship management skills. It’s more about how you are with other people.
  • Social Awareness – Your ability to accurately pick up on emotions in other people and get what is really going on. This often means understanding what other people are thinking and feeling, even if you don’t feel the same way.
  • Relationship Management – Your ability to use aware of your emotions and the emotions of others to manage interactions successfully. Letting emotional awareness guide clear communication and effective handling of conflict.

Now I know what professional development really means…

Throughout my tenure at JFC I have been pushed to grow, to develop myself as a person. Most surprising to me was that learning doesn’t have to feel like work.  When done right, it is very energizing!

It also does not need to be in a formal setting, like a classroom.  Sometimes it is as simple as getting together with a group of colleagues to share experiences and provide support .

I imagine not many employees of other organizations can say the same.  After all, what have you learned this past month, week, day?