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Quitting is not a good choice; except when it is your best choice

“Pain is temporary but quitting lasts forever.”  Sound advice, right?  Maybe or maybe not.

That was a quote from Lance Armstrong and his belief, do not quit at all costs, ended up costing him everything.

quittingSince childhood, we’ve been taught that quitting isn’t an option; that “winners never quit and quitters never win”.  Sounds great on the surface, but let’s be real – quitting is sometimes the best option.  In fact, I would argue that success demands we be perpetually course-correcting, a.k.a. quitting.

Back to Lance Armstrong.  What if he had quit doing the wrong things so that he could do more of the right things? If only he stopped taking those performance enhancing drugs he would likely have some “legitimate” tour de France records.  But he didn’t quit and those seven consecutive records have since been erased from the books.

Herein lies my point, there are times when quitting is the right decision.  Quitting can be a positive process of choosing the path that more fully serves you personally and professionally.  Quitting can be simple tweaking and refocusing in/on a more positive direction.  Quitting can be learning to be more productive, efficient and effective.  It all depends on what you are giving up and why.

Reflect on and identify any areas where your intentions don’t match your actions; where your actions do not match your desired outcomes.  “Quit” those activities/habits which no longer bring you closer to achieving those dreams and goals.  You owe it to yourself!

And while your parents were right that completing what you start is an excellent rule of thumb, it’s not always the best option.  After all, if Lance Armstrong had quit “winning at all costs,” his legacy would be far different than what it is today.

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Sitting on the sideline of life: Why?

A funeral and a wedding anniversary…sideline

Two very different events – but both led me to the same thought – how much time am I spending planning for the future versus living in the present?   Has my life been consumed with looking into a proverbial crystal ball at the expense of enjoying the moment I’m in?

Recently I attended a funeral, more commonly referred to these days as a life celebration.  There I was looking up from a crowd seeing my friend giving a eulogy for his father.  It was a surreal experience and an epiphany for me.  I have been operating on autopilot, preoccupied about the future, and blind to the present.

What potential memories had I sacrificed over the past few months?  Why were my thoughts always out ahead of me?  What had I overlooked?  Who had I overlooked?  These questions and many more were racing through my head.  It wasn’t until the end of the service, as I hugged my buddy’s weeping mother, did I truly become present.  I was one hundred percent in the moment.

Two days later I was heading out for another life celebration, although an entirely different type.  My better half and I were off to the Caribbean.  We were celebrating our ten-year wedding anniversary.  And you know what?  We spent the entire week living in the moment, relishing in the present, and creating lasting memories.  I even turned off my phone, albeit not for an entire day – I’m still working on that.

Today I still allocate time for looking outward, envisioning future aspirations and goals to be met; but I no longer allow myself to be consumed always considering the future.  In the end, all we have is the present.  The past is history, the future always a mystery, but the present moment is our time to shine.

My hope is that you are living in the present, working to positively influence your future.

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