This Holiday- Pay Attention to Where You Place Your Attention!

It is a magical time of year but also one of the most hectic.  With all the gift shopping, events to attend, traveling to do; we become preoccupied with many of the wrong things.  In a blink of an eye the joy is being sucked out of the joyous season.

DistractedPay attention to where you are placing your attention.  Like how perceptions lend to beliefs, where we place our “attention” ends up shaping our (holiday) spirits.  The good news, we have more control over where our “attention” goes than what we might think.  Putting more “attention” on the cheer of the holidays is not about chasing away it’s stresses.  It’s about bringing the chase to an end.

The holidays are meant to be a special reminder for us to be in the moment and/or reflect on the many things we should be grateful for – not the growing list of things to do and places to be.   The unfortunate reality is that most of us hurry through this season without taking in the true meaning of it.  But it doesn’t have to be this way.  With a little intention and awareness, we can bring back the joy of this joyous time of year.

The next time you find yourself wallowing in holiday annoyances (traffic and long lines) refocus your attention towards all the good the season brings (connecting with friends and family who bring happiness to your life).  It’s not about getting through the holidays but rather making them as magical as they can/should be.  The only change needed is where you place your attention.  The choice is yours!

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Is it a good day to have a good day?

It all depends…on the lens through which you view things.

today-is-a-good-day-cardOnce upon a time a shoe company sent two salesmen to Africa to determine market potential.  The one reported back to home office, “No one wears any shoes, there is no potential here for us.”  The other salesmen sent word back, “No one here wears any shoes, there is a huge market here for us, send inventory fast!”

The point of this story is that our perspective influences our beliefs, which in turn influences our behavior.  And guess what behavior influences?  Our results!

Let’s dive a little deeper here.  What we expect out of each day manifests itself in the words we use, and those words can have a powerful effect.  For example, rather than view a difficult conversation with a customer as “I have to…” see it as, “I get to…”  Replace “I have to deal with an angry customer” with “I get an opportunity to win back a customer.”

Choose to be the type of person who sees opportunity where others do not.  Your daily outcomes depend on how you define each moment.  Choose the right perspective, encourage the right beliefs, demonstrate the right behavior; and positive results will follow.

Every day is a good day to have a good day!

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