Perception VS. Reality

Guest blog contributed by Rebecca Hall, CSP – Professional Devlopment Group/Class of 2017  

My name is Rebecca Hall, I am a Recruiter with JFC Workforce, part of the JFC Staffing Companies.  I joined JFC Staffing Companies three years ago, with several previous years of staffing experience, and thirteen years in the Accounting industry.  I came to JFC seeking new opportunities for growth and advancement, in the staffing industry, which is where my passion lies.

cat_sees_lion_in_mirrorJFC was the first, and only, staffing firm that I sought employment, when my pervious staffing firm closed.  I was attracted to JFC Staffing Companies because they are the largest regional firm in Central Pennsylvania, with an exceptional reputation.  During my tenure with JFC Staffing, I have never regretted my decision to join the team.  I have continually progressed and advanced as an Office Professional Recruiter.  As of this year I will have achieved the title of “Senior Recruiter”, and will be recognized as a Silver-Level member of the Top Performer Club (reaching over $450,000 in gross margin for the year) with JFC Staffing Companies.  These are just two examples of the growth that JFC has afforded me.

I credit my continued advancement and success to the resources provided to me by JFC Staffing Companies.  I am given the tools, training and support that I need to continue to learn and advance professionally, as well as personally.  One of the most influential training sessions that I was invited to take part in, is the Professional Development Group.  This group is focused around embracing Emotional Intelligence.  Emotional Intelligence is defined as “your ability to recognize and understand emotions in yourself and others, and your ability to use this awareness to manage your behavior and relationships.” (http://www.talentsmart.com).  During this 6-month training program, a small group of selected employees read the booked entitled Emotional Intelligence 2.0, by Travis Bradberry and Jean Greaves, and discussed during monthly meetings.

In addition to the readings, we also took personal assessments before beginning the program, and mid-program, to test our Emotional Intelligence.  This allowed us to better understand our strengths and weaknesses in this area.  In my initial assessment, I learned that my greatest strength was in Social Awareness.  My weakest scores were in Self-Awareness and Self-Management, which go hand-in-hand.  To me, this means having a strong understanding of how others view me, in comparison to how I see myself, as well as the vibes that I give to others, intentionally or otherwise.  This prompted me to focus on improving my ability to accurately perceive my emotions, and to stay aware of them as they happen.

Perception is “the ability to see, hear, or become aware of something through the senses”, per the dictionary.  Perception is described as how a person “feels” or “views” a situation.  Upon further research, I learned that perception is very subjective.  We tend to perceive people and situations in a way that we feel, and can relate to.  For instance, if you are a negative person, you tend to perceive a situation or person as negative and if you are a positive person, you tend to perceive a situation or person in positive regard.   In short, perception is more so related to the way we see ourselves, instead of the actual person or situation involved.  As our emotional intelligence evolves and improves, one learns to control their gut reaction to perceive things in a way that is controlled by their own tendencies, but to see them for what they are; Reality.

Upon completion of the Emotional Intelligence book, engaging in group conversations, and role-playing within my professional development group, I have improved my Emotional IntelligenceMy Self-Awareness and my Self-Management have become something that I work on every day, in every situation.  Re-training your brain to avoid assumptions and misperceived “reality” is a work in process.  I am learning to take a step back and evaluate situations before mentally jumping to conclusions and perceptions.  I am using my Self-Management skills to control how I react to situations and to people, to try to remain open-minded and flexible in my thinking.

As a JFCr, I know all too well the importance of pursuing my better self.  Thanks to my employer…my work family…I am doing just that!

 

Sunny or Hot? The lens through which you view the world becomes your reality.

Would you say the weather this past month was hot or sunny?

magnifying glassBoth would be accurate however one is more helpful to you than the other.  Being aware of which descriptive words you choose in situations says a lot about your mindset.  For this story, choosing sunny signifies being optimistic whereas hot leans towards pessimistic.  Reflect on the word you chose; does it match up with your mindset?

Why is this so important?  Because your success depends on it!  There are deep consequences to how you view things since what you choose to focus on quickly becomes your reality.   The great news is that you are the one that has control over this. You are the only one that can change the lens to which you view things.

To prove this point, doctors have tested the placebo effect on patients, by giving them a sugar pill when the patient may have thought they were getting a real prescription.  When some patients began to feel better, that was clearly evidence that a simple change in their mindset was powerful enough to change their story/their reality.

If your mindset is of curiosity, wonder and hope – fabulous!  Keep it up!   If you find yourself in a rut that might be focused on negativity and uncertainty, reset it to a state of optimism and possibility.  The latter will bring you more enjoyment and enhance your life. Try it for one week and I promise you will see a difference.  Hopefully you will stand up taller, smile more and feel happier. You won’t want to turn back.

Scan your environment for the positive, never the negative, and make it a sunny day!

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