Facing Insecurities Head On…

Guest blog written by Ashley Martin, Healthcare Recruiter – JFC Medical 

JFC Professional Development Class of 2017

By all accounts, I believe I come across as being self-assured and confident. I make an effort to look the part. Fake it til you make it, right? Despite outward appearances of confidence, I usually doubt my skills/abilities, and often spend way too much time in comparing myself to others. I have always been extremely competitive, and I want to be the best in everything I do. While this is not necessarily a bad thing, at times it causes stumbling blocks for me.

insecureWhen I must do something that is not “in my wheelhouse,” I feel very insecure. I worry that I might not do the task “the right way,” or that I might not be living up to my own expectations. My parents have always had high standards for my sister and for me. Once I was even reprimanded for a 93% in a class. Now as an adult, I hold myself to those same high standards. Anxiety tends to flare up when someone else is more successful than I am, or if I am not doing as well as I believe I should be.

Since I have started at JFC, I have put added pressure on myself. This is the first position I’ve been in that is competitive by nature. As I previously mentioned, I am a naturally a competitive person, so that part doesn’t intimidate me. The recruiting piece has come naturally to me since the beginning, and I love what I do. The only piece of the job that has given me minor panic is the sales aspect. I have never been in a sales position before, and although I’m not an AE, the pressure of bringing in more business is often overwhelming for me. I often feel as if I am not doing enough or not doing that piece of the job well enough. And because I am the only full desk recruiter in Medical, this responsibility falls to me alone.

I fear rejection, and often feel like an inconvenience when I make sales calls. I’m afraid of being a bother or not knowing exactly the right thing to say if someone actually picks up the phone. So often, I have just reverted to recruiting because it is within my comfort zone. I know that this is not the best mindset to have, but that whisper of self-doubt is always in the back of my head telling me that I’m not good enough.

Through this course in Professional Development, I believe I have made strides in becoming more self-aware. I have been able to address my concerns with my team and with Mike and Christine, who are always endlessly supportive. We have worked recently to come up with more concrete plans in how to build the business, rather than just an abstract idea of growth. I do better with tasks and step-by-step plans. Without acknowledging my struggles and insecurities, I wouldn’t be able to move past them. Thanks to Emotional Intelligence 2.0, I believe I’m on my way to a more self-aware (and hopefully SUCCESSFUL) me!


Do you daydream at work? I do!

Daydreaming may not be as mindless as we think.

As children, we would let our imaginations run wild.  One day we would be firefighters, the next doctors; and by the end of the week full blown superheroes.  Nothing was too big for us to dream up and imagine.

daydreamThen somewhere between adolescence and adulthood this activity got a bad rap.  Time spent with our head in the clouds was now foolish – and that mindset may be hurting us more than it’s helping.  Here’s why…

When we no longer allow our minds to wonder we limit ourselves to only the possibilities that are within reach.    We lose our sense of wonder and curiosity.  And when this occurs, we face a formidable nemesis – a closed mind.

Daydreaming can help the seed of an innovative idea blossom into a tangible plan.  After all, imagination, at its core, starts with an idea and the direction that idea takes has the potential to open a world of opportunities.  Psychologists even propose that those who have realized their full potential and purpose do so through their ability to imagine those possibilities first.

Despite daydreaming’s bad reputation, you should not deny that there are real benefits to getting lost in the corners of your mind.  When harnessed correctly, moments in a free state of mind, allow for true exploration of ideas.  And those very same ideas often lead to great accomplishments.

Embrace the power of daydreaming!

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